When Words Matter


When words matter

This article originally appeared in START Connecting in April 2021. 

Beginning in the 1970s, Autism Awareness week was a way to raise awareness about autism at a time when the known prevalence of autism was 1 in 2,500 and it was considered an uncommon childhood disorder. Eventually, Autism Awareness month and World Autism Day were established to continue the effort to increase awareness. Fast forward to 2021, and so much has changed about our understanding of autism.

We now see autism as a spectrum and a form of neurodiversity with a prevalence of 1 in 54, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Rather than being a little-known disability where few people knew someone with autism, nearly everyone knows a family member, friend, or someone in their community with autism. For the most part, we have achieved a solid level of awareness. What’s next?

If you read autism websites or social media, you will see a shift in thinking from awareness to a next level that encompasses acceptance, understanding, and advocacy. We see this shift in individual blogs and large autism organizations, and even in a Michigan Senate resolution (38) to declare the month of April Autism Acceptance month.

Acceptance can mean many things but we view it as inclusiveness, being welcomed into the group, belonging, authentic relationships, dignity, and respect. A shift in language to acceptance is an important move forward, but perhaps it isn’t far-reaching enough. An active, collaborative approach that involves listening, understanding, and taking action will help us grow into a truly diverse, equitable community where all perspectives and people are heard and valued.  

We can raise awareness and promote acceptance in April but more importantly, we need to consider our actions throughout the rest of the year. This is why we, at START, have initiated a conversation and launched a campaign called ASD 365: Equity and Inclusion Every Day to consider how our project is actively promoting inclusiveness throughout the year. This involves exploring the messages we convey in the language and symbols we use, and ensuring we are genuinely understanding and respecting the voices of people with autism from a young age through adulthood. For example, in the disability community, person-first language was considered the most sensitive way to address people with a disability, including autism. However, if you explore the current thinking of many people in the autism community, there is a trend toward identify-first language. For example, “I am an autistic person.” So, what to do? As in many situations, the best course of action is to ask and respect the wishes of that individual. 

As part of our ASD 365 campaign, we are committed to gathering authentic input from the many stakeholders who interact with START to integrate progressive views and actions into our project that align with the values of promoting inclusiveness and belonging. Watch for more information about this campaign and consider how you can get involved.

What actions can you take to promote inclusiveness and understanding?

  • Talk to people who have autism to understand their perspective
  • Talk to others about the goal of inclusion, belonging, and acceptance
  • Consider the language you use when talking about autism
  • Get involved in an autism organization 
  • Recruit a person with autism to be a speaker at an event, large or small
  • Read a book about autism (knowing it provides one perspective) 
  • Set up a book study or discussion group
  • Read a book about autism to kids
  • Promote universal strategies that help everyone, such as visual supports
  • Get involved in Peer to Peer Support
  • Get involved with Unified Champion Schools
  • Make friends with a person with autism

Books about Autism and Differences for Younger Children  

  • A Little Spot of Belonging
  • All My Stripes (A Story for Children with Autism)
  • Different Like Me: My Book of Autism Heroes
  • I'm NOT just a Scribble...
  • Kindness Snippet Jar
  • Looking after Louis
  • Since We're Friends: An Autism Picture Book
  • The Autism Acceptance Book: Being a Friend to Someone with Autism
  • The Bully Blockers
  • The Girl Who Thought in Pictures: The Story of Dr. Temple Grandin (Amazing Scientists)
  • The Special Needs Acceptance Book: Being a Friend to Someone with Special Needs
  • To Be Me: Understanding What it's Like to Have Asperger's Syndrome
  • We're Amazing 1,2,3! A Story About Friendship and Autism (Sesame Street)
  • Goodreads Children’s Books about Autism

Books about Autism and Differences for Older Students and Adolescents

First Person Accounts of Autism 

  • The Autistic Brain: Thinking Across the Spectrum by Temple Grandin
  • Thinking in Pictures: My Life with Autism by Temple Grandin
  • Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger’s by John Elder Robison
  • Freaks, Geeks and Asperger Syndrome: A User Guide to Adolescence by Luke Jackson & Tony Attwood Beyond the Wall: Personal Experiences with Autism and Asperger Syndrome by Stephen Shore
  • Aspergirls - Empowering Females with Asperger Syndrome by Rudy Simone
  • Nerdy, Shy, and Socially Inappropriate: A User Guide to an Asperger Life by Cynthia Kim
  • See Goodreads Books by Actually Autistic Authors

Written by: Amy Matthews, Ph.D., BCBA - Project Director

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This is a non-exhaustive sample list of books. We understand there are many excellent books about autism available. 

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