Moving from Self-Criticism to Self-Compassion

We all experience setbacks at times. When this occurs, our thoughts may tend to move towards criticism of ourselves and our abilities. We can be hard on ourselves, hold ourselves to unrealistic expectations, and end up feeling alone in our suffering when these negative thoughts take over. A more helpful way to approach these situations is with self-compassion. Self-compassion is the act of extending compassion, or a caring willingness to help, to yourself in times of suffering or pain. It may be helpful to think about how you may respond to a friend who reaches out after getting a poor grade on an exam, or following a mistake they made in a relationship, and respond to yourself in the same manner. Try out some of the University Counseling Center's strategies for cultivating your own self-compassion.

• Practice self-kindness. Create a self-compassion affirmation that you can say to yourself during difficult times that is kind and gentle.
• Value mindfulness. Practicing mindful meditation, savoring the moment, and focusing on accurately labeling your emotions in the moment are all ways to stay mindful.
• Recognize common humanity and the highs and lows that come with the human experience.

Managing Election Stress

Political elections can bring a wide range of emotional experiences. During election season, it is important to acknowledge the systems of oppression like racism, sexism, and classism that have impacted the right to vote, which includes understanding both the historical context and current barriers to voting in the United States.

The feelings we all may experience surrounding Election Day include positive feelings such as a sense of community, feelings of agency, and pride in civic engagement. At the same time, some of us may have other reactions, such as fear or anger tied to election stress.  

It is important to take care of yourself and others during this time. The University Counseling Center is available to provide support. Check out the additional resources below to learn more about voting in the United States and managing election day stress.

• Managing Election Stress | Psychology Today 

• Why Access to Voting is Key to Systemic Equality | American Civil Liberties Union  

• The Historical Evolution and Modern Challenges of Election Day in the U.S. - Forward Pathway 

• A Historical Analysis of Voting Rights and Racial Disparities – blacklivesmatteratschool.org 

Holiday Stress

A much needed break is ahead, Lakers! A break brings both excitement for some rest and relaxation, along with some understandable anxieties about how the time spent away from GV may feel. In fact, a recent study showed that over half of students feel stressed or anxious about seeing loved ones during the holidays. These concerns can stem from a variety of causes including travel anxieties, financial strain, coping with grief, and being away from college friends. Head into your breaks with some of these tips from the University Counseling Center, and reach out for support if necessary!

• Set realistic expectations of yourself and others. Things are not going to go perfectly, and that's okay!
• Plan time for yourself. Your loved ones may be eager to hear all about how your semester has been, and it is also valid to set appropriate boundaries and separate yourself when the interactions become overwhelming.
• Practice the self-care basics. Prioritizing quality sleep, taking prescribed medications, eating nutritious foods, and limiting your substance use can all help you feel your best in a change to your routine.
• If you will be alone for the break, spend some time thinking about how to best utilize your time. Reframe your approach from one of "isolation" to one of "solitude", or consider reaching out to someone else who may be in the area to stay connected.

Native American Heritage Month

During Native American Heritage Month, we encourage all to learn about Indigenous community histories and strengths, as well as the unique challenges faced today.
Native populations can face barriers to mental health care including mistrust of government and medical professionals. The University Counseling Center values diversity, inclusion, and equity, and is available to connect with students seeking support for their mental health. GVSU offers additional resources, including the Office of Multicultural Affairs' Native American Resources and Native American Student Association for those who would like to be included in an enriching group of students who share their culture and identity.

Veteran's Day

November 11th is Veterans Day! It is a day to honor and thank those who have served and those who continue to serve in the U.S. military. Veterans Day is also an opportunity to recognize the challenges veterans may face including those impacting their mental and physical health. Here are some ways to help support veterans: 

• Educate yourself on unique challenges veterans may face.

• Engage in meaningful conversations with veterans and military personnel in your life.

• Volunteer with veteran-focused organizations.

• Advocate for veteran benefits.

Resources to learn more: 

• Military Mental Health: It’s OK to Get Help | Military OneSource (podcast) 

• Veterans & Active Duty | National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) 

• Reintegrating Veterans into Civilian Life