Supporting Individuals on the Autism Spectrum Coping with Grief and Loss through Death or Divorce
Posted on November 12, 2026
This family featured resource, Supporting Individuals on the Autism Spectrum Coping with Grief and Loss through Death or Divorce, opens by stating, “Unfortunately, loss and grief are part of life. All people, including children and adults on the autism spectrum, grieve in their own unique ways. Grief can be complex for any of us. It is important to acknowledge that any loss can cause grief. Loss of a favorite toy or routine, as well as the loss of a house, school, or family member can be very significant. All people need support and understanding when they are experiencing the challenges of loss and grief, including those on the autism spectrum.“
The author, Marci Wheeler, offers guidance in three main areas. First, she discusses common responses to grief, including emotional reactions, cognitive effects, and physical symptoms. Second, Wheeler highlights factors affecting the grief process, including age, past experience, communication skills, and developmental level. Next, the author offers support strategies, which include affirming and reassuring, and providing comfort through information/routines, engaging in concrete activities, using social narratives, and considering therapy.
Wheeler emphasizes, “It is important to know that everyone’s responses to grief can vary greatly. Some people may react with anger, some with tears, and others may withdraw and become non-responsive. Some may seem totally unaffected… Respecting the different responses to grief is important. All reactions should be seen as valid.” Those in support roles are encouraged to be patient and understanding for as long as needed.
The author includes a variety of helpful resources, including articles and books. We encourage families to explore these and our additional resources to help support autistic children and adults as they navigate grief and loss.
Resources:
- Autism Awareness Center: How to Support Individuals on the Autism Spectrum Through Grief and Loss
- Autism & Grief Project
- Autism Speaks: Grief and Bereavement Resources for People with Autism
- Indiana Resource Center for Autism: Supporting Individuals on the Autism Spectrum Coping with Grief and Loss through Death or Divorce
- Sunfield Center: Talking to Kids About Death