While we are away from home and loved ones, life goes on. Sometimes unpleasant
events occur while we are at school, possibly many miles away from home and
your natural support system. Often these events involve some type of loss,
which may be in the form of a death of a loved one, close friend, close relationship,
family pet, or maybe even a breakup.
What are some common responses to hearing bad news from home?
- Disbelief and shock
- Problems sleeping and eating
- Inability to focus on schoolwork, work, or even recreational activities
- Depression or anxiety
- Self isolation
What are some things you can do after you get bad news from home?
Talk about it.
- Share your feelings and concerns with friends, RA/MA’s, professors,
classmates, church members, and family.
- By talking with others, you will feel better and realize that you are not
alone; many other people have dealt with similar feelings and are understanding.
Take care of
yourself.
- Get enough sleep.
- Do things that you find relaxing and soothing.
- Remember to eat nutritious foods and exercise.
- Avoid excessive drinking and risk-taking activities.
- Avoid making impulsive decisions or major life decisions.
- As soon as you can, go back to your usual routines and include activities
that you enjoy.
Ask for help.
-Talk with a trusted friend or family member.
- Talk to your academic advisor and professors about missing class and/or
assignments.
- Talk to your work supervisor and/or student organization advisor about
schedule conflicts or responsibilities.
- Use on-campus resources such as the Counseling Center, Campus Ministries,
and Health Center.
For more information regarding counseling services, visit the GVSU Counseling Center website at www.gvsu.edu/counsel. For more information on dealing with grief and loss, go to www.aarp.org/griefandloss.
