We can provide immediate crisis counseling, help with referrals and linkage to community resources (including the YWCA Nurse Examiner Program in Grand Rapids 616-776-RAPE or the Center for Women in Transition in Holland 616-392-1970 or 800-848-5991), and ongoing counseling services.
Sexual assault is any type of sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the recipient. Consent has to be clearly and freely given and the absence of "no" is not consent. Consent cannot be coerced through threats of harm, when the assailant knows or has reason to know that the victim is mentally incapacitated (temporarily incapable of appraising or controlling their conduct due to influence of narcotics, alcohol, etc.), or when the victim is physically helpless (unconscious, asleep, or for any other reason physically unable to communicate unwillingness).
Across the nation, 19% of undergrad women reported experiencing completed or attempted sexual assault since entering college. Additionally, estimates of dating violence from college students range anywhere from 10% to 50% (Source: USDOJ).
Even if the survivor doesn't want to press charges or get counseling, stress the importance of contacting the YWCA Sexual Assault program or the Center for Women in Transition in Holland as quickly as possible and encourage them to be seen by a nurse examiner.
The examiner can check for physical injury, discuss STD prevention, emergency contraception, and collection of evidence in case the survivor changes their mind at a later date about reporting. These agencies also have staff who can discuss options and other services that are available.